She moved out...

and sometimes it's hard being mommy

Published on September 29, 2007 By foreverserenity In Parenting

Well, she has moved out today. My 18 year old, who says to us, look at it as her growing up, not moving away. I want to, and I know she is, but right now I'm not feeling in a good enough mood to write the whole thing and give some perspective.

I thought I would be able to write and discuss and process the whole thing but I'm just going to go tuck up in bed with the hubby, drink my Foster's and watch Sci Fi....

Life rears up and bites you in the ass sometimes and there are times I wonder why kids just don't understand what there parents are trying to do for them?

Comments (Page 1)

Locamama

on Sep 29, 2007

(((((Donna))))) I know this is really hard for you.

RoyLevosh

on Sep 29, 2007

Jesus Donna baby know this: I feel your pain. I really, really do. God, I wish I could reach across all this -whatever this is- and give you a hug. But, know this...

You are not alone in this. I understand.

Gene Nash

on Sep 29, 2007

foreverserenity

on Sep 30, 2007

Thx you guys. It's even harder on her dad. Her brother and sister keeps asking me why. I'm not sure I did a good job answering their questions.

Dr Guy

on Sep 30, 2007

I wonder why kids just don't understand what there parents are trying to do for them?

Because they have never been a parent. When that time comes, they will gain a new appreciation of you and what you are going through.

I know it is the way of the world, and I know it is hard as well. Hugs Donna.

Moderateman

on Sep 30, 2007

Sigh, cutting the umbilical cord is hard Donna, but such is the way of life.

I {{{{{{{{donna}}}}}}} you kid hang in there.

Trudygolightly

on Sep 30, 2007

(((((((((((((((((serenity))))))))))))

Trudygolightly

on Sep 30, 2007

Because they have never been a parent. When that time comes, they will gain a new appreciation of you and what you are going through.

That's exactly what my daughter said to me after the birth of my first grandson! almost word for word for word....

that along with having a greater appreciation for the things that we'd bought for her, suddenly K-Mart jeans weren't the end of the world...

foreverserenity

on Oct 01, 2007

Because it was time.That's really the only answer you can give, and a truthful one at that.

I guess, but it's not one that I give readily because I didn't feel she was ready to do what she has done. However, I have to accept it and trust her that it is the right time for her, as I told her the night before she moved.

Their 'time' will come too.

I know and I hope it will be because they are moving into college dorms, and even then it won't be easy!

Because they have never been a parent. When that time comes, they will gain a new appreciation of you and what you are going through.I know it is the way of the world, and I know it is hard as well. Hugs Donna.

Thx Doc!

but such is the way of life.I {{{{{{{{donna}}}}}}} you kid hang in there.

Yes it is, thx Elie!

(((((((((((((((((serenity))))))))))))

Thx Trudy!

greater appreciation for the things that we'd bought for her, suddenly K-Mart jeans weren't the end of the world...

! They don't see it now, not until they experience it. As I did when I went through it!

I appreciate the cyber hugs you guys....a lot!

majicalillusion

on Oct 04, 2007

Sorry you are going through this.

I know how you feel, I've been pulled back in forth and my 15 year old just moved back in with his father again. Thus going to a place he's not appreciated.

Also my bother in law did the same thing.

Its really hard to let go when all you want to do is help them and keep them from going through all the crap you had to go through.

foreverserenity

on Oct 05, 2007

Its really hard to let go when all you want to do is help them and keep them from going through all the crap you had to go through.

True! I have accepted that she has to go through her own heartaches and pain...I just wish I could prevent her going through any of that but I know it's a natural part of life!

KellyW0498

on Oct 05, 2007

Donna,

I know this is hard on you.

...I just wish I could prevent her going through any of that but I know it's a natural part of life!

I totally understand this feeling. Did you get my e-mail?

foreverserenity

on Oct 05, 2007

I totally understand this feeling. Did you get my e-mail?

Thanks Kelly. Oh no, I will take a look!

foreverserenity

on Oct 05, 2007

Did you get my e-mail?

I did and you've got a mouthful!LOL!~

adnauseam

on Oct 12, 2007

Well, always hope for success stories. Sometimes they happen. My daughter moved out at 17, married at 19 and has a wonderful marriage 10 years on. It doesn't always work out that way but the magic word is "trust". Keep hoping that it will turn out well--it probably will!

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