Life as I Know It; Family; Lifestyle; and Healthy Living!
Body in Progress
Published on May 22, 2008 By foreverserenity In Diet

Last week at my WW meeting I lost 2.4 lbs!  This week, I've last 2.6lbS!!! Wow!  My hard work and dedication is paying off in results that I never thought would happen!   That is 17.2lbs since January!  Whoo hooo!

 

The journey does get really difficult sometimes!  I have moments of displeasure and self-dislike that might be the pendulum of my blood sugar!   However, I always pick myself up out of that quagmire of self-doubt and get my bum moving once more!  Usually after a workout the highs are just so fantastic because I feel so very good about myself!

 

I love myself, don't get me wrong, I consider myself to be pretty level-headed but I didn't realise that there was so much crap placed in my subconsious that gives me that self-defeatist attitude at times.   Much like any little girl would do, I found myself comparing myself to others, especially to what our society's definition of beauty is.

This is something that happens to everyone, not just a little six year old, or a teenager, but also to me, a grown woman!   That is why it is so difficult for a girl or woman to think themselves beautiful, and why so many women have such a bad relationship with food!

 

We seek approval from those around us who are supposed to find us beautiful, and sometimes they don't. Sometimes they use words to say the things that they know will hurt, they refer to our bodies, and they make us not think we are good enough. 

I remember a time a long time ago, I was a little girl of 12.  My dad was angry at me for something I had done.  What I had done was not the end of the world, but at the time it was bad (I tattled and it caused a fight between two room mates, bad enough for the police to be involved)!  He said something to me that I've never forgotten and that sat in my subconcious for a long time.  The angry words I don't quite remember, but the one thing I do remember is him calling me fat!  My dad, the person who was my hero, the person I loved with all of my heart, called me fat.  It hurt at the time, I never told him how much.  I know he was angry at himself for saying it, he apologised, but the hurt was already done.

 

So you see, be careful what you say to those precious little girls of yours out there, because it might scar them for life or be a hurt that doesn't go away. 

 

Growing up, I didn't love my father less, or hate him.  He always was and always will be my hero, even though he's not of this Earth anymore.

 

But I wondered if that was where my love-hate relationship with my body started.  My self-conciousness, my self-doubts!  I think so.

 

That is why I am very careful with my two girls, even my son. I don't let them refer to themselves in a negative manner, or anyone else talk to them in that way, not even to each other!  I boost their confidence and let them look for the good in themselves.  We all need to do that and stop comparing ourselves, and pointing out our shortcomings.  I have to remind myself not to do that, a lot!  So yes, practice what I preach!lol!

 

Just this morning at the gas station, the attendant, a young man, who kept making mistakes, said sometimes he was a bit slow, I said to him not to worry about it, it's early yet.  He slipped up again and made another negative comment about himself, I said, "Hey, it happens to everyone, it's only Thursday"!  He said something else again, something about missing the boat when it comes to being bright!  Wow, we do those things without realising it!  You don't have to be a female to criticize yourself, guys do it too.   And I can imagine the people who have drummed that sort of thinking into his subconcious!  Sad!

There is just so much that we are that is good, we sometimes forget.  I think we should make a point to remember to do that, look for the good things about ourselves, and don't harp on the negatives! 

So I plan to continue with this weight loss journey of mine.  There will continue to be good and bad days I'm sure, but I won't let the bad overcome the good!

Good luck with your journey as well, we can do this so keep up the good work!

 

 


Comments
on May 22, 2008

I have had many women friends who were/are very attractive and most of them would talk so bad about themselves. I found I would have to watch what I say around them. Like one time at a restaurant one friend said she wasn't going get dessert even though she was dying for something sweet. Then when she did order dessert I said, "I thought you weren't getting dessert" and she said, "Are you saying I shouldn't? You think I gained weight, don't you? You think I'm fat." I didn't mean anything bad and no way was she fat.

It also works the other way because if one of my friends do look nice I almost always compliment them. Nothing crazy just a small compliment like I like their shoes and I like the way their blouse lights up their face. One time a friend said she did something major just based on one of my little compliments.

I guess that's good but I don't think anyone should give anyone else that much control good or bad. I think people need to like themselves more and not let anyone take it away.

 

BTW ... Great job on the weight loss this year. That is super, Donna keep up the good work.

on May 22, 2008

I guess that's good but I don't think anyone should give anyone else that much control good or bad. I think people need to like themselves more and not let anyone take it away.

This is so true!  Sometimes it is hard not to give someone the control, because we all seek acceptance for one reason or the other, or for one thing or another!  We only find the answers to our problems when we accept ourselves for who we are, then and only then, can the change you want happen!

 

BTW ... Great job on the weight loss this year. That is super, Donna keep up the good work.

Thx Chris!  I'm on that wagon and holding on for dear life!  The good thing is, my actions are motivating those around me into action for themselves, which is such a great thing!

on May 29, 2008
Just keep taking it step by step, FS.

on Jul 09, 2008
You should calculate how long it will take at your rate of loss to be skinny. I bet it's not as long as you'd think.