Life as I Know It; Family; Lifestyle; and Healthy Living!
Published on July 6, 2006 By foreverserenity In Misc
There I was in the grocery isle frantically searching for ice cream, a flavor I know my oldest girl would love. Cause we were giving her a surprise birthday celebration. I had my two youngest with me but they were ahead of me held captivated by the variety of ice pops in the refrigerator.

A group of guys and gals came into the isle, laughing and jostling each other playfully. They were trying busy talking. I noticed them but I didn’t notice them, if you know what I mean. {for the uninitiated, I looked at them with my side vision (yea, I have super powers!LOL!) this to make sure they were not a problem to me or mine and went back to my business.

Then I heard one of them said “Hey watch it you nigger” and laughed. One of them admonished, “Hey don’t use that word”, I felt the looks in my direction, but I pretended not to see them or hear….why, because I’m not one to blow things out of proportion and I decided IT wasn’t important enough for me to get uptight about. Cause you see, I decided that I was going to put a pin in that bubble. That word which is being thrown around by one and all, used freely with fondness and familiarity. Why am I going to give it props, or credentials? Nawwwww…plus by the sound of it, they used it quite often between them. So often and familiar it seemed, it just slipped out while they were out amongst the public folks.

So no drama, no hissing of the teeth from me. I moved on with my business glimpsing the perplexed and hesitant looks with my side vision. I laughed softly to myself, scurrying my brood forward cause I’ve got a celebration to do. Bet they didn’t expect that! Hehee…neither did you!

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on Jul 06, 2006

My Mom told me "sometimes it's best to ignore a situation / comment - after all - people have the right to make a fool out of themselves - no need to help them along".

You have been popping around with great comments.  You really should join.  YOu have a lot to offer. And so far, all of it at least thoughtful or better, great.

on Jul 06, 2006
I think what one has to consider is that this isn't mean as an insult 90% of the time now. I have heard the 'n' word a handful of times in public in the last few months, and every single time has either been quote from rap music, or the Dave Chappelle show. I can't remember the last time I heard it said in racist terms.

Granted, people should be sensitive to the fact that people still take it the other way, and I don't excuse people who toss it around. On the other hand maybe it is time to look at how often the word is used in popular culture with no insulting connotations at all.

So when I hear friends, white or black, talking to each other in public and one says 'Oh, n--- please.', I know exactly where it came from. I don't think they intend it as a racial slur any more than people who say "I'm rich beeeyatch" mean to disparage women. I think a lot of hurt feelings could be spared if people would hear things in context.
on Jul 06, 2006
You are such a lady and an incredible example on knowing when to say when. (That made sense in my head)

I hope the party was great and the ice cream delicious.
on Jul 07, 2006
Some, not all, kids are so neive these days. You should hear some of the racial slurs that come out of the mouths of my elementary school kids. I don't think they know what they are saying half of the time.

I hope the party was fun!!! MMM ice cream!
on Jul 07, 2006
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Thank you guys for your comments. I'm glad I chose to not react. Sometimes I guess you have to just know which battles are better to fight, so I agree with that. You guys rock too! Thanks for putting a smile on my face!



Reply By: Dr. GuyPosted: Thursday, July 06, 2006My Mom told me "sometimes it's best to ignore a situation / comment - after all - people have the right to make a fool out of themselves - no need to help them along".You have been popping around with great comments. You really should join. YOu have a lot to offer. And so far, all of it at least thoughtful or better, great.


I've never noticed Feisty in Ohio before. Thx for stopping by Feisty and you're actually right on with what you said! Your mom's very smart!


Reply By: BakerStreetPosted: Thursday, July 06, 2006I think what one has to consider is that this isn't mean as an insult 90% of the time now. I have heard the 'n' word a handful of times in public in the last few months, and every single time has either been quote from rap music, or the Dave Chappelle show. I can't remember the last time I heard it said in racist terms.


Baker, what you say is absolutely true. There are some who do still take it as an offense whether it's done as an insult or not. As you said the situation that it's being said in these days are mostly not intended as an insult.




Reply By: alison watkinsPosted: Friday, July 07, 2006Some, not all, kids are so neive these days. You should hear some of the racial slurs that come out of the mouths of my elementary school kids. I don't think they know what they are saying half of the time. I hope the party was fun!!! MMM ice cream!



No I don't think they know what they're saying too. Sometimes they want to make an impression and look good to their other friends, you know, like they're 'with it'. I always tell my children not to say something unless they know the meaning of the words they use because they will end up looking stupid. My dad taught me that a long time ago and it stuck with me.


Yes, the party was great and the ice cream deeelicious! {Breyers' Dulce de Leche and Edy's toffee house cookie dough, which my daughter loves!}
on Jul 07, 2006
You handled this unpleasant situation very well, FS.

And a belated Happy B-day to your girl.
on Jul 07, 2006
Reply By: InBloomPosted: Friday, July 07, 2006You handled this unpleasant situation very well, FS.


Thx Rose!
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