I'm going to have to chime in here on the other side of the fence... It's possible that he honestly doesn't see you. I know when I'm walking down the hall or in a mall sometimes, I'm just sort of lost in my own thoughts. I may be looking straight ahead, I may look RIGHT AT YOU, but chances are I just don't see you. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm not ignoring you, I'm just off in another world.

He might be shy, true. Maybe he likes you?
This kinda reminded me of when I used to work in a hospital as a maintenance worker. The doctors were often very arrogant, and would sometimes completely ignore us menial, work-shirt-and-jeans-wearing, job-filling warm bodied organisms. I never let them get away with it.
I ALWAYS made a point to ask them how it was going or just to say hi.
If they were especially uppitty, and there were quite a few, I'd even engage them in some kind of light conversation, if we were in the elevator or something. I always made eye contact with them, too. If they wouldn't see me as a person on their own, I'd force them too.+LOL+

--you know what this is right, its sanity training...

Sanity training? Not sure what you mean. But if you mean a way to keep my own sanity, oh yeah, holding on at all cost or else people and their weird behaviour would drive me insane.

It's possible that he honestly doesn't see you. I know when I'm walking down the hall or in a mall sometimes, I'm just sort of lost in my own thoughts. I may be looking straight ahead, I may look RIGHT AT YOU, but chances are I just don't see you. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm not ignoring you, I'm just off in another world.

Zoomba I see your point and I've done that myself before. Let's face it when you're really deep in thought you're in another world! But no, he wasn't, he was looking at me the second time. The first time when he didn't hear the good morning while we were passing each other I leave that as him not hearing me or something, although I said it just as we got close to each other in the hallway. The second time, nope.

He might be shy, true. Maybe he likes you?

I don't think that's even a factor because he doesnt' know me. And I've only just noticed him around recently.

The doctors were often very arrogant, and would sometimes completely ignore us menial, work-shirt-and-jeans-wearing, job-filling warm bodied organisms.

This is quite a description Rightwinger, LOL!

If they were especially uppitty, and there were quite a few, I'd even engage them in some kind of light conversation, if we were in the elevator or something. I always made eye contact with them, too. If they wouldn't see me as a person on their own, I'd force them t

This is good. And why shouldn't you have, it's the mannerable thing to do.

This is quite a description Rightwinger, LOL!

+LOL+ That was how they often saw us, too. Just warm bodies who picked up after them. Not good enough to talk to.

This is good. And why shouldn't you have, it's the mannerable thing to do.

There were a couple doctors who were pretty cool....strangely enough, at least one of them, I know, worked his way through medical school by working in the local steel mill. He could relate much better to us clock-punchers than the rest of those scholarship-riding assholes because he knew what it was to work for a living.

There were a couple doctors who were pretty cool....strangely enough, at least one of them, I know, worked his way through medical school by working in the local steel mill. He could relate much better to us clock-punchers than the rest of those scholarship-riding assholes because he knew what it was to work for a living.

Never dismiss the hourly staffers, they are the ones that keep the world around you functioning. I learned that important lesson early in life when I realized I got slack from the lunch ladies in school just because I would say good morning to them, or talk to them on occassion. I took this and applied it next to the librarians and was given access to all the stuff they keep hidden, was shown the computers etc... The lesson has served me well dealing with janitors, repair workers and secretaries in departments I've worked in.

My paperwork always gets processed quickly, when something in my old office broke, the service guy would be there that day to take care of it (whereas he'd take a few weeks for most others), my working life is so much easier because I treat people with respect.

Never underestimate the value and power of the guy pushing a broom down the hall or emptying your trash can.

Never dismiss the hourly staffers, they are the ones that keep the world around you functioning. I learned that important lesson early in life when I realized I got slack from the lunch ladies in school just because I would say good morning to them, or talk to them on occassion. I took this and applied it next to the librarians and was given access to all the stuff they keep hidden, was shown the computers etc... The lesson has served me well dealing with janitors, repair workers and secretaries in departments I've worked in. My paperwork always gets processed quickly, when something in my old office broke, the service guy would be there that day to take care of it (whereas he'd take a few weeks for most others), my working life is so much easier because I treat people with respect. Never underestimate the value and power of the guy pushing a broom down the hall or emptying your trash can.

Perfectly said....and well appreciated by those of us who do such things for a living. Thank you.

My paperwork always gets processed quickly, when something in my old office broke, the service guy would be there that day to take care of it (whereas he'd take a few weeks for most others), my working life is so much easier because I treat people with respect.

Definately a lesson well learnt! And most definately it's always good to treat others with respect because it comes around full circle!

Never underestimate the value and power of the guy pushing a broom down the hall or emptying your trash can.

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with people who do this for a living. They should be proud they're taking care of their families and earning a good living.

Serenity,

My boss, the man I've been working for and with for the last 6 years, is the same way with me and a few others in the office. I have looked him in the eyes, held the door to the office open for him as he's walked through with an armful of files, said "good morning" and he completely ignored me. He didn't even say thanks. I felt like letting the door close on him. And this is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to his rude behaviour.

If he were like this to me outside of work, I would call him for the rude person he is, but I can't say anything to him at work. It can be particularly frustrating for some of the other people working with him. I won't allow it to get to me anymore. I continue to be polite and let him look like the asshole. I agree with IG; it IS his loss.

Cheers,

Maso

won't allow it to get to me anymore. I continue to be polite and let him look like the asshole. I agree with IG; it IS his loss.

Thanks Maso. I agree with the not letting it get to me part, I don't. That particular day it did!

An update, I did get him to respond to me! I kept saying hello or good morning or some other greeting - he finally caved! But guess what? He's back to looking the other way again - ! I leave him to his own devises. Sometimes some people just don't wanna be friendly, so you leave them alone. No skin off my nose though! It's interesting people's peculiarities isn't it?!