Life as I Know It; Family; Lifestyle; and Healthy Living!
Published on March 20, 2006 By foreverserenity In Misc
Sometimes I feel like a Fraud. Fraud is perhaps not the right word to use as it implies that I’m a liar, or a fake or something negative.

It’s just that I present this air of calm and peacefulness most of the time. As if all is well in my world when it’s really not.

Most of what I deem as “my problems” is really not as catastrophic as I tend to think they are. Not compared to other people’s problems anyway. Mine are perhaps simpler, but they are mine and they do tend to make me worry. And I try to remind myself not to worry so much.

Although to me, my problems are mountains that I can’t seem to climb. It’s like there’s that Star that is hanging quite low, it looks like I’m grasping it and yet I can’t grasp it no matter how hard I try, no matter how many ladders I climb to reach it I cannot. Sometimes it might seem like I’m going to grab a hold of it, then suddenly there’s a big bump and off the ladder I go and once again I have to start from scratch!

So getting back to why I feel like a a fraud sometimes…it’s just that sometimes I feel like my life is so chaotic and it’s barreling out of control. Like a runaway train, nothing can stop it.

So to me it’s all topsy-turvy, and I’m making no sense to you right now, I know. I’m sorry – I’m just in a chaotic state of mind.


But yes, I am a calm and peaceful person. I exude the air of someone with quiet authority. Maybe that’s why some things fall into my lap so often. I don’t know.

I know I’m still not making any sense to you but at any rate this rambling is somewhat calming for me.

This is when I turn to that source of higher power. The Spirit within that calms me and let’s me think more rationally.

I go through every nuance of that which bothers me and I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Then the storm of confusion that rages inside is quiet.

There’s peace, an everlasting moment of stillness, and I breathe, in that infinite moment.

Serenity is thy name, be one with thyself.


Thanks for reading with me.

Comments
on Mar 20, 2006
Even the calmest of people can get caught up in a storm of chaos...I totally understand how you feel.

Here is hoping that this storm passes soon and that you'll be able to get more peace of mind.
on Mar 20, 2006
I too understand you. But don't feel like you're a 'fraud', feel confident. Confident that you are able to take things in stride, and can continuously project the air of calm and peacefulness; the air of confidence.
Your problems, however, are only as large as you'd like to make them out to be. To some, an issue as simple as a lack of popcorn can set them off the edge. Others can deal with, say, a neurotic ex-spouse who just won't let them move on daily without even giving a second thought. Guess what I'm getting at is there's no reason to make a mountain out of a molehill. And keep in mind, that if you ever need help with an issue, don't ever hesitate to ask. Ask a friend, a family member, you don't even have to know them (like people here on the 'net). Ask the higher power. Doesn't matter who you are, a little prayer or meditation or whatever you would like to call it never hurts. Sometimes just some deep thought will bring the answers to the front.
on Mar 20, 2006

Life is a chaotic catastrophy moving along, that we desperately try to control and then it washes over us and sweeps us out to sea.  The ones at peace are those that do not fight the rip tides, instead swim with the currents until they can swin easily to shore.

Swim with the current until you can safely swim back to shore.  Do not fight every tide, for that will only tire you and not ready you for the moments you have to swim with the tide.

on Mar 20, 2006

Swim with the current until you can safely swim back to shore. Do not fight every tide, for that will only tire you and not ready you for the moments you have to swim with the tide.

The wisest words I ever read!  insightful Doc!

Telling someone "how to feel and how not to feel" is poor advice,  we're all entitled to our feelings.  A very wise woman once wrote about her paralysis,  was it "The Other Side of the Mountain?"  is that the book I'm thinking of?  someone had complained about her legs hurting and this gal answers her back with something like she used to tell people that they had no problems unless they didn't have use of their legs,  then she got wise.

I say,  " if you've gotten a paper cut, you can't understand how much it hurts to lose a finger,  and if you've accidentaly lost a finger,  you can't understand how much it hurts to lose your arm."  Either way,  it hurts when you cut yourself,  and one is just as valid as another!  It's like if we lose someone we love to old age, or if we lose a loved one to an accident or disease,  we might be more surprised if it's an accident,  yet it still hurts just as much.....when it hurts, it hurts....if someone told me not to make a mountain out of a molehill,  then turned around and said don't hesitate to ask for help,  well..I'd hesitate to ask that person for help!

on Mar 20, 2006

I hear you.  I often just bottle up my chaotic feelings.  Not always a good idea, but it has lead to others thinking I never lose my cool.  I wish that were so.  Working on it, just not there yet.

It sounds to me like you have a pretty good handle, even amidst the chaos.

on Mar 21, 2006
You really do, even on here, have an image of calmness, and as you say, quiet authority. It is so appealing and a very special quality.

I think so long as you don't feel that you can't allow yourself to be hurt or broken or frustrated or scared because you don't want to let others down (by not being the calm, anchor person), then being inwardly chaotic and outwardly serene is fine.

We all have to do whatever works for us, although many of us could spend several lifetimes trying to figure out what it is that really does work for us.

Anyways, take care of you and remember that there are plenty of people here who, even if they can't physically help you, are always willing be a friend or a sounding board or whatever you need.
on Mar 21, 2006
think so long as you don't feel that you can't allow yourself to be hurt or broken or frustrated or scared because you don't want to let others down (by not being the calm, anchor person), then being inwardly chaotic and outwardly serene is fine


very wise words Tex, insightful comments all the way round! good going girl!
on Mar 21, 2006
Rose, Redimpulse, Dr. Guy, Peter, Brandie and Trudy, thank you all for your considerate responses. You all deserve an insightful on all your comments!

What each of you said was so soothing to my chaotic mind and I do appreciate your imput very much. Although I'm someone who's very open and I try to be helpful to others, sometimes it's difficult to share my load because I don't want to burden others. But yes, it is good to talk to other people and I've been doing that lately.

Doc, I love what you wrote, very insightful indeed! And Brandie...Thx!
on Mar 21, 2006


I don't bottle up my chaos - I revel in it.

Then again, I tend to be a *little* anal-retentive, so I try to make it all sit dress right, dress and all in order.

Makes my life rather interesting at times. 'Specially with 4 little ones running around the house adding to the Chaos level.
on Mar 22, 2006
remember that there are plenty of people here who, even if they can't physically help you, are always willing be a friend or a sounding board or whatever you need


Hear, hear. Anytime...
on Mar 22, 2006
. 'Specially with 4 little ones running around the house adding to the Chaos level.


Heheh, I can relate with that type of chaos! Hence your name uh?!


Hear, hear. Anytime...


Thx Maso!