Sometimes it might seem that I complain about my kids a lot. I don’t consider writing two or three articles about what I don’t like or trying to get them to adhere to certain rules at home complaining, that’s a typical parental discussion.
From time to time I’ll mention my kids and I have said good things about them, they are fairly well-behaved and good children. Except for the few times that I have to be at my wits end because of a disagreement or something, typical kids stuff. Though sometimes it seems my four and half year old is more than typical. [stay tune for an article yet to be posted - any day now, and you’ll see what I mean!]
I’ve always told them how wonderful they are, that I’m proud of them, and other things to encourage them. Children need to know when they’re doing well and it’s a boost to their confidence as well.
It’s not good to always tell them when they’re only doing something wrong. I remember my mom always told me good things about me. She loved telling baby tales of the antics I would get into. So I guess my little one possibly got that from me! Haha….yea, but I don’t think I was as bad as her!
I reaffirm to them when they do something good and I can see that makes them feel good. That’s important to do. It makes them work even harder to be a success.
In doing this, I don’t believe that I should let them not be prepared for their future. They have to learn to expect good and bad things out of life. No matter how much you try to protect them, they are going to experience some of the ugly stuff from people out there. They have to learn how to defend themselves. So they learn to follow rules, to participate in household chores and to be decent human beings.
I tell them all the time to enjoy their childhood not to rush into things, not to rush into wanting to grow up. And at the same time life’s not just having fun and living as if there’s no tomorrow, it comes with responsibilities, and the sooner they learn about that, when they are equipped to handle it, the better armed they will be.