Nurturing Friendships

Published on November 8, 2006 By foreverserenity In Just Hanging Out

I read one of Nicky’s recent blog Link that made me realize one thing. How much I miss socializing with friends. It’s nice to be around people physically sometimes. It’s nice to have someone you can just hang with and not fear reprisals, jealousy and any negativity that would happen if you were with some other people.

It’s so important to nurture friendships. I do it from afar, nurture friendships, but there or times when I wish I could do it up close and personal, the way I used to. It’s not nice when you move far away from those you love. Sometimes you even end up losing some of the people you thought were your buds.

I don’t have a hang out spot where I am now. I do wish I did though. I do realize one thing, it’s no ones fault but my own. It’s not like I haven’t had opportunities to go hang out. I’ve been busy with my family and other personal stuff. I have relationships at work that have turned into socialized event outside of work and that’s nice, sometimes. But they’re not hanging out buddies.

I do however realize one thing though; my mindset leans more towards other things than just hanging out, thus I don’t crave it as often. And there are times when I get a little shy and will not go out on my own, even when the opportunity presents itself. And the number one drawback, I feel naked without a buddy by my side to deflect the boredom or anything else that might flair up. This also depends on whether this person will want to have fun or be a wet blanket!

Yep, it’s no fun to hang out on your own. There’s just so much you can do with the kids and when hubby doesn’t’ often share the same interests; it can get down right boring.

Well, I guess I’ll have to do something about that soon. Otherwise I might have to go all the way to NY or Jamaica just to go hang out! LOL! Now that would be fantastic to do!

Comments

crimson

on Nov 08, 2006

And there are times when I get a little shy and will not go out on my own, even when the opportunity presents itself.

I used to feel the same way, now, I rarely make plans with other people as I prefer just bumping into them, and letting fate take its course for the evening. Do I feel like a loser sitting at the bar on my own? Not hardly. In fact, most say that they wish they did this more often. No obligations to stay with a set group, the ability to just say goodbye and move on without offending anyone.

Thanks for the mention, and of course, I shall now encourage you to just take that step. The majority of my now close friends I've met this way... on my own and without introduction. Lots of spontaneous things have happened, and I highly recommend this course of action.

Nicky.

foreverserenity

on Nov 08, 2006

and letting fate take its course for the evening. Do I feel like a loser sitting at the bar on my own? Not hardly. In fact, most say that they wish they did this more often. No obligations to stay with a set group, the ability to just say goodbye and move on without offending anyone.

I so admire that you can do that!

Thanks for the mention, and of course, I shall now encourage you to just take that step. The majority of my now close friends I've met this way... on my own and without introduction. Lots of spontaneous things have happened, and I highly recommend this course of action.

I'll brave the 'waters' and see what happens!

Thanks for the mention

Oh you're welcome!

dynamaso

on Nov 08, 2006

I'm too busy to have friends. JU gives me all the warmth and comfort I need but without the communicable diseases

foreverserenity

on Nov 09, 2006

JU gives me all the warmth and comfort I need but without the communicable diseases

! That it does Maso!

Ravenblack

on Nov 10, 2006

I'm opposite of you. I'm quite anti-social. I don't mind be alone at all. I like being with a close friend sometimes, but I can't take it if I see that person for too many days in a row. I'm kinda weird like that.

foreverserenity

on Nov 10, 2006

Naw, it's not weird, it's just wanting space to breathe and that I can relate to as well. There are times when I just don't want to be bothered and wouldn't care to see anyone socially. However there are those times when a little socializing is good, for me anyway-

! But as I said, I've not been doing too much of that since living here. I'll see what I can do to remedy that in the future.

uDigItTheMost

on Nov 11, 2006

I, too, miss socializing with friends. Since moving here I rarely socialize. Maybe because I have no friends here. :

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Like Ravenblack I can be anti-social at times and do enjoy being alone. Then there are times when I can be very social and be the life of the party. Everything depends on my mood, but 99% of the time I take whatever comes my way.

foreverserenity

on Nov 11, 2006

Then there are times when I can be very social and be the life of the party. Everything depends on my mood, but 99% of the time I take whatever comes my way.

I hear ya!

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