I'm not sure how to put this into words or what to even write about. I know it's been on my mind a lot lately and I have to write to think it out.
Recently my daughter said she has agreed to go steady with a boy, she's 17, he's 19. My hubby met him, I haven't formally met him. My hubby met him because he used to work where my daughter works.
He's doing nothing right now. NOt going to school, no job, nothing. Although he's supposed to start school in January, college that is.
He's not exactly who I would have picked as her first boyfriend. My first question to her is are they intimate. She said no and she is not into that and she has told him that. I said ok, it's ok with you but boys will be boys and you know how they can be. Sex is very much a part of a young man's life at that age.
She's assured me that it isn't going to be a part of their relationship. They are just dating. I believe her and know she wouldn't lie to me.
To be brief, because I have to go pick her up in a few minutes, they are on their second official date.
I'm worried that I won't handle this well. That I'll either scare her, worry unecessarily or just plain be the parent who makes their child's life a nightmare because you want to protect them and not let them grow up, at least not yet, in that manner.
I've been the calming influence over her dad because I know he's pretty protective and he's got the 'bat' out so to speak. I told him she's growing up and we have to let her do this because it's what children go through.
I'm an open mom, we do communicate and always have done so with each other. I don't want to be overbearing with advice and scare her or anything like that.
For once me in my usual eloquence of writing is not so eloquent and is making a mess of this writing.
Anway, I am watching and see and missing my mom right now.
My baby is growing up and I'm not ready for it.