Extreme Parenting

or too much love for your child?

Published on January 8, 2007 By foreverserenity In Blogging

I was watching Good Morning America and they featured this couple, parents who kidnapped their daughter because they didn’t want her to get married to the man she was going to marry. They said they felt she was making a mistake and did what they thought was best for her.

The daughter and the now husband don’t think they should have done that. The daughter doesn’t want to have anything to do with them.

She is prosecuting them for what they did. She said the District Attorney from her town approached her and now they are taking her parents to court.

I know what they did is wrong. But is that really necessary? As their child should she not look at things from their perspective that they are her parents who love her and only wanted to protect her but made the wrong decision in doing what they did?

For the parents, when is it time to let go and let their child live her life and make her own mistakes? Even if they didn’t like the guy, and I’m not sure if him being Mormon has anything to do with it, but they should have just accepted the relationship and let her live with the choices she made.

It’s a sad thing all around. Now the daughter is pregnant and she has locked the parents out of her life. They want to be grandparents they say but that won’t happen now obviously.

Unless the daughter finds it in her heart to forgive them. They were crying and regretful during the interview. That’s so sad to see.

I think the prosecutor should let this case go and let the family sort it out amongst themselves. Yes the parents committed a crime, a crime of passion in a way.

Comments

Dr Guy

on Jan 08, 2007

This is probably the Maine one. There was one in California (I think - it was out west) as well. And I think she should proceed. The parents have evidently not learned that 18 is the age of consent, and have to be taught a lesson. A long Jail term? No, but some type of punishment nonetheless.

Zoomba

on Jan 08, 2007

Kidnapping is kidnapping. If you abduct and detain an adult against their will, it's wrong and against the law... even if it's your own child. That crosses a line well beyond "parenting" and stumbles into the world of mentally unbalanced and criminal. I think the parents essentially made the choice to not be involved in their daughter's life by doing what they did. I don't think the daughter necessarily should forgive them.

foreverserenity

on Jan 08, 2007

The parents have evidently not learned that 18 is the age of consent, and have to be taught a lesson. A long Jail term? No, but some type of punishment nonetheless.

Being as old as they are Doct, punishment like jail time would definately not be good for them. I think they're being punished right now though. That should be enough of a lesson for them.

I agree with that Mike, I do. I would freak out if my parents did ever behave like that with any of us. But I doubt any of us would want to press charges against them. I guess some people just look at it differently. I don't agree with what they did, obviously they have problems, major ones, that stems from more than just the marriage to this guy. That's the story that's not being told. I could be wrong, but for them to go to that extreme, it seems that way.

At any rate, they're definately paying the price with the loss of contact by the daughter and now the soon to be grand child.

The parents did admit that they were wrong and that they will need counseling. That's a big step in my opinion on their part. No she doesn't have to forgive them, but I think in time, she will regret it if she doesn't. Unless of course they are the parents from hell, and nothing she said about their past relationship suggested that.

greywar

on Jan 08, 2007

I bet the kidnapping was simply the latest in a pretty long string of butting in by these parents. Probably was the straw that broke the camel's back as far as the daughter is concerned. Very very stupid.

foreverserenity

on Jan 09, 2007

The daughter and her husband and lawyer were on tv this morning. She didn't say if there was any other stuff involved. The sisters, she has two, were both upset about what happened and one of them is pretty worried the parents will go to jail. The daughter said she wants them prosecuted because it was wrong of them and she doesn't want them to go to jail, just to counseling. I guess she's doing this in her own way, persuing the court date that is because that's the only way they will get counseling.

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