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Yesterday, I experienced the most horrible 15 minutes of my life. I hope never to experience it again, ever! It was pretty much a lazy day at home for us. The night before was my oldest daughter's Prom (I'll talk about that another time and I've got some pics!), my hubby wasn't feeling well, hasn't for a couple of days and the stubborn man refuses to go to the doctor, so we were basically home thawing out, doing nothing but lazying around, in bed, around the computer, taking turns, and grazing in the refrigerator when we get hungry!

It was late afternoon, or evening because it was around 4pm and I finally decided I have got to get ready to run out to the stores to get some replenishment of supplies and also something to cook for dinner. We had stuff in the fridge but the kids wanted their fav Spaghetti and Meat sauce and I was out of those items. I got my five year old ready, then I got myself ready. My hubby decided that he wanted to tag along so we were waiting on him. My son's friend came to the door and he went to the door to talk to him.

My daughter, the five year old usually takes that opportunity to slip outside and hang around them. I warned her not to go off anywhere because we were almost ready to go.

I'm inside, waiting on my hubby, while doing something which I don't remember now. My son was still outside, my daughter was playing with the neighbor's kid when I checked, right out at the steps leading up to their apts, which is right outside our door. She asked me if she could go to the playground with her friend, I said no way, not on your own and we're almost ready so don't go nowhere.

My son came inside, I reminded her, don't move, while I grab my bag, etc. It took me an extra five mins to get outside and when I did, she was nowhere to be found.

I scanned the area, calling out her name. I came back inside and told hubby lets go because she's gone to the playground and she is in BIG trouble! We drove to the front where we have to go by to exit our complex. I scanned the area, no sign of her, I got out of the car and walked around, no sign of her. Hubby decided to take one side of the complex, while I take the other side and off I went searching for her.

I'm calling out her name, yelling, walking fast getting overly anxious because there's no sign of her friend, none of her, no bikes in sight anywhere! I called home to alert her older sister, call her brother on his cell since he had gone to his friend's out and by this time I was screaming!

I walked up and down, inside and out and scoured the outside area, which there was a lake across the street, not directly but it was there, there was a pool, I checked, nothing.

Then I went to where my hubby was supposed to be, no sign of him. I ran back towards our home, where I saw him going through the back way to search for her. I'm knocking on the homes of her friends, and having my oldest check the little girl's home to see if they were there. Nothing.

I dialed 911. I was hysterical by this time and I was also mad and frantic.

I am giving description and I had to take a breath because the worse case scenarios was playing out in my mind. HOW could I have lost my baby so quickly, why didn't I just hold on to her, what if, what if......

The dispatcher had me on the line while I went back to look inside my home to see if she was in her room or had shown up, no go. Then my oldest daughter came walking towards me with her in her arms and I was frantic asking if she was alright. I told the police we found her and she was OK.

Where was she? Over by the Volley ball court, which was near the pool where I already looked, obviously, not well enough! I didn't see her because she was on the ground, she and her friend, making sand angels!

I was mad, yes I was. I was mostly mad at me, even though a little upset with her. Then my hubby was mad at me because I dialed the police so quickly so we had a mini shouting match while walking to our home. It wasn't pretty and my daughter was screaming her head off when she realised how much trouble she caused.

I guess it was our reaction to the situation. And I told my hubby I didn't care, we couldn't find her and I had to call the police. His thing was it was only 15mins, we were still looking and we had to be sure before doing that. I said to him that all it does take is 15 minutes for anyone to take her as far away from here as possible! That shut him up!

In less than 30 minutes the police was at our door. I'm glad to see the response time was that fast! We assured them she was OK, they wrote their report and I held on to her as tight as possible. She got a little lecture, reassurances that we love her and that we were just scared something had happened to her. I gave her a bath because she was so messy with sand and then we went on our way to get supplies. Needless to say, I held on to her as tight as possible, and she slept in our bed last night!

I was exhausted, so exhausted. I didn't realise how much that took out of me. I felt as if I had aged by 10 years. It's not a good feeling! It's not a good thing on the eve of my birthday! But thank God for us, everything turned out alright!


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on Apr 22, 2007
I mentioned that I was mad. I was mad because all the time, while walking around and obviously looking for a missing child, no one came to see what was wrong, no one asked if I was OK. These are the neighbors I live around and it left a bad taste in my mouth, and made me realise how much our lives, depended only on us. NOT that it's their problem, but being a neighbor, is being a neighbor, am I right or wrong in that assumption? The thing is we only know about five families there now. Almost everyone who we knew, have moved on and the peopel who live around us now are strangers, and they all speak another language, so communication is usually not there. Although I will say hello to people I don't know, I don't usually get a response back some of the times. The feeling of beign alone, never felt more acute than it did at that moment. I told my hubby that I can't wait to get out of there. We're looking for a home right now. I'm so ready to get out of there! Not that having a house would probably be a difference, I don't know. It's times like this I miss living in NY. As impersonal as some people think it is there, it's not, I find it more impersonal living in Florida and even after five years, that takes a lot getting used to. The saddest part is, the girls mom, they are fairly new to our area, didn't even come outside to see what was going on! People are so weird, I just am not used to that at all! I've often seen her daughter outside playing, riding all over by herself. I guess I care too much because I always make it a point to look out for other people's children. Unfortunately, no one else is looking out for mine.
on Apr 22, 2007
Thank God she is okay, safe and sound and back at home.
on Apr 22, 2007

That is the scariest thing!  I lost my little guy for just a couple of minutes at the mall and almost had a heart attack so I know how 15mins mst have felt like an eternity.  The good thing is, she'll now know how important it is to not go off on her own.  My little guy hasn't done it since.

Happy birthday!

on Apr 22, 2007
I remember that from another point of view -when I was the one that was lost. I think I must ahave been five or six and got seperated from my folks someway and it seemed like an eternity before they found me. Scary to a little kid!

(But I'm SURE it was scary to you too and I'm glad it worked out okay)
on Apr 22, 2007

Thank God she is okay, safe and sound and back at home.

+1 to those thoughts!

on Apr 22, 2007
I'm so sorry that you went through this FS, but I'm glad you found your little girl safe and sound. I'm also sorry that your neighbors weren't helpful--I find that terribly sad.
on Apr 22, 2007

+1 to those thoughts!

+2!

on Apr 22, 2007
whewwwwwww........... and smack onna backo head to hubby for not getting it!
on Apr 22, 2007
Thank God she is okay, safe and sound and back at home.


Thx Poison. I'm glad for that too!


That is the scariest thing!


It was! And the horrible part for me was I am on the email list for Familywatchdog.com and they had emailed me that two pedophiles from another state just moved to my neighborhood, well, I was freaking out! It was a Saturday and there were strangers on the property painting and I just felt overly anxious and reacted badly when I couldn't find her anywhere!



I lost my little guy for just a couple of minutes at the mall and almost had a heart attack so I know how 15mins mst have felt like an eternity.


That happened to me when I had my first born and she was three. It was horrible!


The good thing is, she'll now know how important it is to not go off on her own. My little guy hasn't done it since.


This is good yes, and I'm glad it turned out ok for you too. Thx for the birthday wish!


I think I must ahave been five or six and got seperated from my folks someway and it seemed like an eternity before they found me. Scary to a little kid!


(But I'm SURE it was scary to you too and I'm glad it worked out okay)


Yes and Yes to both Joe! She didn't think anything was wrong til she saw how upset we were. Now she knows.


Thank God she is okay, safe and sound and back at home.+1 to those thoughts


Thx Terp!


I'm so sorry that you went through this FS, but I'm glad you found your little girl safe and sound. I'm also sorry that your neighbors weren't helpful--I find that terribly sad.


Thx Shades. I know, that was kind of a wake up call to how alone one can be with so many people around you!


+1 to those thoughts!+2!


Thx Doc!


whewwwwwww........... and smack onna backo head to hubby for not getting it!


Thx Elie...I know...what was he thinking uh?!
on Apr 22, 2007
I don't blame you for calling the cops... if there's even the slightest chance that she was taken, the sooner you call, the better. Smart thinking.

That being said, I'm glad she was only off playing. Your heart must have been in your throat ready to explode. You poor thing.
on Apr 22, 2007
I don't blame you for calling the cops... if there's even the slightest chance that she was taken, the sooner you call, the better. Smart thinking.


My thoughts exactly!


That being said, I'm glad she was only off playing. Your heart must have been in your throat ready to explode. You poor thing.


It was, more than that too!
on Apr 22, 2007
I think you did the right thing. As you said, 15 minutes can mean the difference between your child being in the neighborhood and being recovered and your child actually being abducted (or worse).

I agree this type of thing is a mother's worst nightmare. I have had my middle child get away from me in a store before (he was right beside me, and then he was gone...I found him under a rack of clothes but not before freaking out first, and like in your situation, no one really seemed to care), and it is terrifying.

Poor mommy.

I'm glad your baby girl was ok, and I'm sure, as Jill has said, she will remember and not be nearly as quick to go off to play without permission now that she understands how scary that can be for everyone.
on Apr 22, 2007
I think you did the right thing. As you said, 15 minutes can mean the difference between your child being in the neighborhood and being recovered and your child actually being abducted (or worse).

I agree this type of thing is a mother's worst nightmare. I have had my middle child get away from me in a store before (he was right beside me, and then he was gone...I found him under a rack of clothes but not before freaking out first, and like in your situation, no one really seemed to care), and it is terrifying.

Poor mommy.

I'm glad your baby girl was ok, and I'm sure, as Jill has said, she will remember and not be nearly as quick to go off to play without permission now that she understands how scary that can be for everyone.



Thank you Tex! Yes, she now knows never to do that again!
on Apr 22, 2007
I had a habit of not paying attention when I was little. I wouldn't wander off, but I wouldn't notice when my parents left. I'm pretty sure they let me think I was lost for a while at some clothing store in the mall. This nice old man noticed me frantically searching the clothes racks for my parents and pointed them out to me (I couldn't see above the racks). They didn't seem worried, so I'm sure they did it on purpose. Taught me a lesson, though. I kept up with my parents after that.
on Apr 22, 2007
I remember when I couldn't find Bret for a few minutes when he was maybe three years old. Talk about sheer panic and it does seem like time slows down when you're in that situation. I'm glad that everyone is okay.

I do think people aren't as neighborly as they used to be when I was a kid. I know my neighbors to say hello but that's about it. I really am not friends with anyone in our neighborhood. I know a few families because our boys are friends but it's usually just a hello and a wave. I do think it helps to know the neighbors because then they can look out for each other's kids etc.
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