We must learn to love our bodies
Have you seen that new show with Carson Kressley on Lifetime, "How to Look Good Naked"? If you haven't you really should see it! It's both entertaining and endearing at the same time.
In the show he has a woman, or as in one episode, two women (mother and daughter) who each hate their bodies for one reason or the other. These women or regular women, not celebrities or models, normal sized, average looking women who don't happen to look as bad as they seem to think in their own minds.
I was watching the show with the mother-daughter women and he had them both in front of the mirror in their undies looking at themselves, really looking at their bodies and telling him what they don't like. The daughter who was not fat at all, looked at herself and dissected her body in the most ugly way possible, jiggly-jelly thighs, big butt, etc., etc.
He then told her to put herself where she thinks she would fit between women of different sizes, she placed herself at the end, as being the largest woman there and she wasn't!
It dawn on me that so many of us women do this to ourselves! We put ourselves in such a tizzy just because we are not the sizes the fashion magazine says we are supposed to be. We might not be perfect, but we should learn to love our bodies!
I know how easy that sounds, I'm not too happy with myself, how I look right now, because I'm weighing more than I want to right now. But although I don't like being fat, I have learned to love my body, now I just want to be healthier by being in shape.
However, when I look at a woman like that, she's about a size 10 or 12, she wasn't fat, she had an equally proportioned body and yet she hated herself!
How do we get ourselves in such a state that we don't see ourselves for whom we really are? And because she and the other women who have been featured on that program so far, don't love themselves, they dress the part in unattractive clothing, no make up, not doing their hair, not taking care of themselves! No wonder they will feel unhappy about their looks!
By taking the time to even getting your hair done, or combing it in a way that makes them feel attractive, putting on a little lip gloss, putting on a pretty dress or a nice pair of jeans, and not baggy out of shape clothing will make them feel better about themselves, as Carson proved when he got them to do just that!
It's not an easy thing to do I know, being comfortable in your own skin. But getting them to see the psychology behind the way they thought about themselves, letting them see how others saw, thought and reacted to them, made these women realise that they weren't so bad after all!
We should stop doing ourselves the disservice of trying to look or be like those model-thin people on the movies or in the magazine. It's impossible to be that way unless you are naturally thin. It is OK to have a butt, large breast and thighs that jiggle. And if you hate those jiggly thighs so much, just get into better shape than you are already!