Life as I Know It; Family; Lifestyle; and Healthy Living!
Published on June 17, 2004 By foreverserenity In Home & Family
My mom is visiting and spending some time with us. I'm trying to make sure she's comfortable in our home and that she's fine. I've noticed recently that she doesn't seem to be eating and I keep asking her "mom did you eat today, what did you eat?" as if she's the child and I'm her mom. I know she's getting tired of me asking so I decided to leave her alone on that topic. I tell my eldest to make sure that grandma eats breakfast and lunch. But of course you can't force her to eat. I buy a variety of food and make sure to have the kind of food that she likes. Unfortunately, she likes ethnic food, from the caribbean, and where I'm living there's not a lot of it. I travel far to get it on the weekends. Some of the supermarkets do provide them. But they don't taste the same somehow. You know how older people are, they dont like change, at least some people don't. My mom is a wonderful person and she's always been very strong and very independent. I wonder if that bothers her sometimes that she's not that way anymore? She has to take lots of vitimins and nutritious drinks to make sure she gets all her nutrients. I'm going to take her for a check up to make sure that she's ok. Unfortunately she doesn't live here and I can't get her on my insurance. So that means higher out of pocket expenses. But i'll do it because I want to make sure she's alright. But even getting her to go to the pool is like pulling teeth! I'm trying to please her and please my kids and my husband! I love them all but i'm tired. And so I'll just keep an eye on her and see if I can find a clinic or doctor where the cost is not too outlandish and also continue to make her comfortable. In the meantime I have to find places of interests to take her to. I know there's a lot of them here. I have yet to go out and really explore this place. I'm looking forward to it. My very best friend of more than 22 years will be coming to visit us soon. She's coming with her family and I can't wait for them to get here. Then we will explore together and have a good time! Would you believe we've know each other for so long and haven't seen each other in 20 years?!!!! Yet we've kept in touch from different continents. I will tell you about her sometime. I just hope mom will be up to it but I think she will be because we used to live next door to my friend and I know she'll love to see her again too. I hope she'll perk up soon. What do you think? Am I wrong to be so worried? Maybe she'll snap out of it.
Comments
on Jun 18, 2004
It's very hard not to worry about the people we love sometimes. I think it's a good idea to get her checked, it certainly couldn't hurt! I have a very long time best friend, too. I hope you have tons of fun with her.
on Jun 18, 2004
Thanks WiseFawn. I have to get her checked out to make sure she's ok. The good thing is, when I got home yesterday, she looked so much better and said she felt better. But she didn't eat dinner yesterday. She said she wasn't hungry. So I made her some tea and asked her if she wanted anything else with it and she said no. Of course I had to bite my tongue to not say more. I'm trying not to be too pushy with her. Then after talking to her a while, I realised she's worrying about my brother who lives in another state. She hasn't spoken to him in a week. So I said, mom are you worrying about him? Is that why you are being like this? She said no, i'm not worried. So I said, you know he's alright if he wasn't he would have called me to let me know. I said, mom he's fine. Stop worrying so much, he'll be alright. The thing is, he's going through some stuff right now with his wife - long story. The bottom line is, his wife is being really ridiculous and he's trying to hang on to his family, they have kids. I'm a woman and I go through stuff but I wouldn't do half the things his wife is and what she's putting him and their kids through. But we try not to tell mom about all this, she knows he's having a difficult time but she doesnt' know all the details and we don't tell her because we don't want her to worry too much. Anyway, my brother and I talk all the time and I give him advice or I just let him talk and I listen. So I got on the phone and left him a message and he called me back and then she talked to him. Now she knows he's ok. I told him to call more often. Mom's will do that though. They'll worry about their children no matter how old they are. I'm a mom and I do that too, even though my kids are younger. We are not trying to keep her out of our lives, we just don't want her to worry too much. She's known for that, her worrying, and then she won't eat. So, I've put her mind at rest where he's concerned so I hope she'll be a lot better now. I'm looking forward to my friend's visit and I'm working on an itinerary right now. Three more weeks and they're here! Yipee! Gosh I feel like a kid again!