On Sunday morning I got up and made breakfast as usual, and I went into the bedroom to ask my husband a question about cooking. He was watching the news and they were talking about phedophiles and mentioning the recent crimes of a few. They were also talking about whether these men deserve a second chance or being locked away for ever.
Then he told me that yesterday while we were in Wal-Mart, he went to check on our 10 year old, who loves to go to the toy section to look at toys and also to play the games featured in the store. Believe me I’ve been over every scenario in my head and with our son (I had to) so that he’s aware of what can happen. I know this might seem careless to some, but this way shopping for food doesn’t become boring for him and he likes doing it. To get back to what my husband told me, he said that when he got to the aisle where our son was, there was an older gentleman there, he stood observing this man and he got a really funny (strange) feeling and decided to stay with our son until he was done. Men go into toy stores and buy toys for their children or grandchildren or whatever, but this didn’t seem that way to him. I got very alarmed at this and I guess he didn’t tell me at the time we were shopping because he knows how I am. (I made a mental note to remind our son about being careful when he’s in the toy department by himself).
My feelings on this may be (or will be) controversial. I would like to think that these men can and will make a change in their lives when given a second chance, but most times they don’t. And perhaps there are a few out there who may have changed for the better, I haven’t heard of any. Unfortunately, the few who might have change will just have to be lumped together with those who just won’t or can’t change.
I say castrate them. Yes, castrate them. This may seem harsh to some people, but I say why not? Why not take away the very thing that will make them get those feelings and the need to want to do it to a child. There are hookers out there for got sakes. People of the same or opposite sex who will do whatever they want for a price. Why not go to one of these people?! No, instead they prey on innocent children who are defenseless and trusting and unable to win if they fight them. Children who will be and who are too scared to fight back.
On Nip Tuck this weekend, a series on FX, one of the doctors who is a main character in the show, confronted a priest who had molested him as a child. He asked the priest, “why don’t you go away, why do you continue to do what you do?” (this while he had a knife to his throat. The priest wept and said “I can’t, I just can’t help myself. I see them (little boys) and I get these feelings and I have to have them.”
Do you see what I mean? He has to have them, he get these feelings and have to act on them!!! @!!!!! I wondered to myself, at least, I asked my husband who was also watching it with me, why does the Catholic Church not allow their priests to marry? Why do they want them to abstain from having a sexual life? I know it’s because to them you can’t serve two masters (so to speak). But if they did allow these priests to marry then maybe there wouldn’t be so many assaults and molestation of innocent children. This is preposterous and beyond me. It makes me angry whenever I think about it.
This priest may have been a character in a movie, but this very well may have been one of these perverts in real life making a confession! I’ve always told my children about being wary of anyone who tries to touch them or makes them feel uncomfortable. Even if it’s a family friend. I tell them where no one is supposed to touch, not even mommy or daddy. Each of my children is told this from the age of 3 years. And I tell them and remind them throughout their lives. The older they get the more information I give them. I do this to make them aware of this world and what’s out there. I have to prepare them because I am not with them every second. I tell them to trust their instincts (and I explain this to them in the most simplest of terms). So that they understand what can happen. Unfortunately, this is the reality of our world.
I’ve had to come to the defense of my oldest girl several years ago when she was with me traveling to Manhattan. A dirty old man on a NYC transit train. He wasn’t dirty physically, just mentally. You bet I gave him a peace of my mind and I had to be restrained to not get physical with him. He didn’t get to do whatever it was he was trying to do. There are perverts out there and the only way to protect your children is to make them aware of them.
So yes, I believe in castrating these molesters of children. Because when they get a second chance, they commit the crime again. And almost always, it’s the loss of a child’s life.