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Published on April 13, 2005 By foreverserenity In Personal Relationships

Women are such fantastic beings. We’re intuitive, loving, and classy; many of us are very independent; we are wives, girlfriends, lovers, mothers, daughters, sisters, all of the in-laws, aunts, and every other list on the relative chain. The list of who we are and what we are about is so long and so vast that it is too many to list here.

There are always some sayings about women, one that get repeated a lot is, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” which really reads, if a woman doesn’t get what she wants, watch out! One popular word that is used a lot is “bitch”. When someone wants to get back at a woman, that is the first thing they will say to her – “you bitch” – so as to insult her. What is a bitch anyway? Yeah, I know it’s a female dog. But why are women often referred to as a bitch? I know the person saying it would think it’s the only way to really insult whomever he/she is talking to, but why call a woman a “bitch”? Maybe it’s in the same sense of calling men “dogs” and/or “pigs”? But really, saying to a man, “you dog” or “you pig”, is looked on as kind of complimentary isn’t it? Because saying that to a man would never be deem as a personal attack.

But this is my two-cents on the word “bitch”; Ladies, if anyone calls you a bitch just look at the person with a big smile and say “Thank you”. After all, it takes one to know one right? (you could even say that too – it takes one to know one!) You wouldn’t be considered a bitch if you weren’t seen as a threat, right? Which means you’re a force to be reckon with.

The comedienne George Carlin said, “women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” Yep, men do drive women crazy! But we women already knew this, especially those of us who are in a relationship!

Sigmund Freud said, “Despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer... the great question that has never been answered: what does a woman want?

This is really a question that most people, sometimes even the woman herself are unable to answer. Different women want different things, depending on their situation and/or station in life.

I recently found an explanation to some of the things we women say to our men. And you know what? I could see myself in some of the responses, Lol!

So read on men, this may clue you in on what not to say to your wives or girlfriends, or infact, how to figure out your lady’s responses!


FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows! )
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."

GO AHEAD!
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.

THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"

Comments
on Apr 13, 2005
It's funny you mention the bitch thing. My wife hates that word, actually really gets hurt by it. So I never ever ever call her a b even if she's acting like one. And I'm one who thinks people can use any words they want. It's more the content than the delivery. So guys don't call your women a bitch unless she doesn't mind because it's true, or some other possible rational reason.
on Apr 14, 2005
Well i dont like being called a bitch. I mean if we're jocking with my girlfriends i dont mind it. But if someone means it in a bad way, boy am i gonna get back to them, and not in a pretty way. I'm not very big but i've already got into a fist fight with a guy once because he insulted me. At the end of it he's the one who ended up at the hospital
I am nice, but i do have a temper...

Anyway, as for the rest of the thread i found it very entertaining and quite accurate, hehe.
on Apr 14, 2005
I've been called a bitch under many different circumstances - some deserved, some not. I will never stand proudly by the word bitch as I don't like the ethic that it seems to embody - self serving, conniving, spiteful, malicious and domineering. You are right - it does mean that we're a force to be reckoned with, I just like to prove my personal power in different ways. Women don't just have to be the soft, feminine, passive character that society seems to want us to be, but it is useful to use our charms to effect change in the world. You catch a lot more flies with honey...

I do love the female dictionary attached on the end of the article however. Years ago I made a deal with myself that I would learn to be more imaginitve with my language than to use the words 'Fine' and 'Nothing' when in a relationship. It's damned hard and I have failed often, but it is a fun experiment!

Cool article,

Suz xxx
on Apr 14, 2005
I agree that bitch is not a nice word. But we have to deflate the ego of the person who's using the word and the only way to do that is to get their goat by smiling and give it back to them, verbally - they just hate that, when you give them their cumuppance! Or do like IG and slug em! Har, har. Good for you IG. I agree with you though Suz, you catch a lot more flies with honey!

Glad you guys liked the article. I started out with one thought and ended it another way!
on Apr 14, 2005
Interesting point that you make! I was talking about this very thing last night - the smug satisfaction you get from not rising to the bait. Taking the wind out of someone's sails, especially when they're incredibly full of hot air, is something I take great joy in. And I suppose that makes me a bitch too!
on Apr 14, 2005
And I suppose that makes me a bitch too!


Ha, ha, har! At one point or another, I've been there too! And you know what, that's ok cause sometimes you just have to be!