A Response to Reiki's comment
Yesterday I wrote a blog about my husband, how funny he was and how he just totally disarms me when I’m in a bad mood. Link. In it I also mentioned that my husband and I sometimes disagree on how we should discipline our children. There are times when I might give them a smack on the bottom or the arm, depending on how severe what they did is.
Reiki responded to my blog. He made a comment to the effect that I am abusing my children. His was the first response.
When I read this I thought to myself, what the heck is he talking about? I do realize that he does go off the deep end and go off-cock 99.9% of the times. Mason and Zoomba who also responded told me to ignore him. But it weighed heavy on my mind and it made me mad.
Moderateman wrote a blog last week, Link to the effect asking how he can be perceived so differently by his fellow JoeUsers, while his family sees him differently. (Read it if you didn’t) I remember responding to him that I understand what he was saying and words do hurt when you are accused of something by someone. Whether we like it or not, words do hurt. I know I’m not a bad parent, my family knows I’m not a bad parent. For Reiki to even hint that I abuse my children is downright disrespectful!
I don’t go around calling other people names, I may swear sometimes, depending on what the gist of the blog is or the comments are, and done totally “tongue in cheek” and with no harm intended; but I’m pretty much an easy person. I think my threshold for people and my tolerance level is pretty high. This one however, I refuse to let lie.
Reiki, you sir are an asshole.
I know that will probably be edited but so be it. You read someone’s blog and you totally put your own spin to it. It’s like putting words in my mouth, totally going off topic. I don’t appreciate you even hinting that I abuse my children. You don’t live in my household or even near me to know what my family is like. You do however see them through my “eyes” in my writing. I suggest that you do go back to my blogs to really see what kind of parent I am.
When it comes to disciplining my children, hitting them is the last resort. And only when they have really, really done something that only giving a slap or two to the bottom or to the arm would get their attention to let them know this is wrong, your behavior will not be tolerated anymore.
My husband and I don’t beat up on our children. We believe in communication. We talk to each other. My children are not afraid of me. When it comes to disciplining them, The first thing I do is talk to them, to show or tell them what they did was wrong, with a stern warning not to let that happen again. If it’s done again, depending on the offense, each child is taken aside and given a talk to, and then they would lose the use of something they really love to do.
I have no cause to beat up on my kids. They are good children, with the usual behavior and antics of kids their age. They test us, try to get away with some things, but they basically don’t usually do anything that would have us punishing them horribly.
I won’t go into this any further. I’m a sensible person, and I do know when to take a break away from my children when I’m at the point of no return. My husband knows when to step in and when to deflect the behavior of my children or even my own. We do that for each other because he has his moments too. I know when to apologize to my kids if I’ve done too much yelling at them. I would never tell them that I hate them, call them names or do anything that would let them feel that we don’t love them.
I’m only going to leave it at this. I’m not going to call you anything else, other than the asshole I called you at the top of this blog. I’m not going to go off on a diatribe of my colorful dialect to put you where you truly belong Reiki.
I don’t plan on blacklisting you or anything else. That said however, I would like you to have a little more respect for other bloggers here and not spin what they’re trying to say into something else, or even hinting at some kind of wrong doing. I’ve seen you do this too many times.
I believe in having my say and I’ve done that.
And especially for you Reiki and people like you, who are only here to judge others, read this Link
And this too Link
Enough said!