I had good friends in high school, many of which I knew from grade school as well. After graduation, many of us married and moved to other cities or countries. We lost contact with each other as a result. Throgh a website called reunion.com many of us became reaquanted with each other.
Three years ago my graduation class had its 40th reunion. I was not able to attend, but had pictures sent to me. I honestly do not remember going to school with so many old people.
Seriously though, we may lose contact with friends, but we never lose the friendship.

After graduation, many of us married and moved to other cities or countries. We lost contact with each other as a result.

Yea, this is usually the reason why people lose their friends. I'll check out the website but It probably doesnt' have any schools from overseas. I do go on classmates.com from time to time though and see some names mentioned there. You have to pay for more detailed service though.

My best friend is a guy I've known for about 30 years. We were pretty much inseparable in Jr. High and High School, and we stayed in touch when he went into the Marines afterward. When he came home, he moved into the upstairs rooms of my house (which I had inherited from my grandmother), because he didn't feel right living with his parents again after six years of service and combat in Desert Storm. Man, we did some serious drinking in those days!
We had kind of a falling out a few years back, due to my ex-wife's dumbass sister and some of her bullshit that alienated him (she wanted him, but had stupidly, though thankfully, introduced him to the fine woman he married). We didn't speak for a while, and kind of lost touch, but I found his parent's address one day and sent them a letter. I got back in touch with him then, and found that he had never been mad with me, and was sorry that we'd lost contact. We started rebuilding the friendship then, and my wife and I met him and his family for dinner not long after.
Another friend, a girl who was like the female counterpart to my other best friend, I hadn't seen in twenty years, but found online and managed to stay in touch. She was like the sister I never had, really.
As it happened, a new job brought us to the same town where she lived with her husband and kids, and our friendship picked up where it left off so long ago.
Another old friend I tracked down online and stay in touch with, too. Christmas cards and all that, though we've never met face-to-face.

My point in all this is that you can, with a little work, get back in touch with people and rebuild friendships. It's good to have old friends like that....it gives you a sense of personal history that it's hard to get with "newer" friends, if you get me. Find them...it may take some time, but it really is worth the effort.

It's my expericence that the friends we make are largely a result of shared situations. Once those situations end, all too often, so do the friendships.

Then there are the "life long" friendships; the ones that transcend situation, personality differences or even differing interests. Those are the ones that, no matter how much time passes between contact, it seems like you just saw your friend the day before.

Those are the true gifts in our lives.

Throgh a website called reunion.com

I meant classmates.com
sorry

I agree with ParaTed. I'm still in contact with friends I made in polytechnic, but not those I went to secondary school (high school) with. We did try for a while after we graduated, but we were all taking different courses after we left school, and had different schedules. Just sort of ran out of things that we can share I think. We were very different from each other. Of course, if we met on the streets, we would have lots of things to catch up on.

I don't really get it?

Why do people get so attached to a group of kids who are compelled to go to the same location daily for four years depending on the neighborhood where they live.

High School friends- overrated/ College friends- underrated

My point in all this is that you can, with a little work, get back in touch with people and rebuild friendships. It's good to have old friends like that....it gives you a sense of personal history that it's hard to get with "newer" friends, if you get me. Find them...it may take some time, but it really is worth the effort.

I will Rigtwinger, I will. Your story just proves how and why good friends are so important in our lives. Really nice!

Then there are the "life long" friendships; the ones that transcend situation, personality differences or even differing interests. Those are the ones that, no matter how much time passes between contact, it seems like you just saw your friend the day before.

This is true Ted. These are the kinds of friends I have now. We do still keep in touch and sometimes we all get busy with our own lives but always we manage to find time for each other. That's truly friendship.

but not those I went to secondary school (high school) with. We did try for a while after we graduated, but we were all taking different courses after we left school, and had different schedules. Just sort of ran out of things that we can share I think. We were very different from each other. Of course, if we met on the streets, we would have lots of things to catch up on.

Yes Raven, in high school you're younger your goals and dreams are different from that as an adult. You lose touch because you change. It happens. But yea I'm sure if I ran into one of my friends from high school now we would have lots to talk about!

I don't really get it? Why do people get so attached to a group of kids who are compelled to go to the same location daily for four years depending on the neighborhood where they live.

Because at that moment in time in a high school kid's world his/her friends mean everything to him/her. They click together and that's important. If some are lucky, the meaninful ones will still remain friends. If not, then you lose touch.

Then there is college or work and you develop more friends at that new point in your life. And when you develop those friendships it becomes more meaningful to you because you're older and more knowlegeable of the world around you.

High School friends- overrated/ College friends- underrated

Absolutely true!

I had only one true friend in high school, and we still keep in touch by letters and phone calls. As for the rest, well, I just didn't grow very close to them...at least not to the point of staying in touch with them all through these years. My 10 year reunion was two year ago...I decided not to go. ah well. However, I do bump into a few of my former classmates now and then, and it is nice to see and hear how they are doing and what they are up to.

Hope you get to see your friends soon.

This is why i love MSN, lol! I keep in touch with most of my friends through MSN and emails. My best friend whom i havent seen for 4 years is the only who gets mail the traditional way or a parcel from time to time.
I really miss her, but she's coming over in July with her boyfriend and she'll stay over at my place for a week, YAY!
You dont really need reunions, it's much nicer to get a letter or a visit from a friend out of the blue

Hope you get to see your friends soo

Thanks InBloom!

You dont really need reunions, it's much nicer to get a letter or a visit from a friend out of the blue

This is true. My current friends are kept in touch via emails, IMs and telephones. We don't much write letters via the postal service anymore, except to send cards! I'm looking forward to seeing my best friend again this summer. It's great to hang with friends!