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Baring my soul, randomly
Published on September 13, 2005 By foreverserenity In Life Journals
I don’t know if I should write this or not. I’m in one of those moods today. One of those reflective, helplessly-wondering-if-anything-will-change moods, as I look around me at what is going on in our world today. I’m really feeling at my lowest, emotionally bruised and battered by what goes on in our society. When do I wonder will it change? When will there be no worry as to what I am? Or who you are? Or what are they?

I look at my children and wonder if I can adequately prepare them for this world of ours because it’s a cruel world out there. I look at my son and wonder if he will meet the same fate as others like him just because of the color of his skin? Or my daughters who are much paler in comparison to him and wonder if they will be looked at as passably acceptable just because they are fair? Or will even my own deny them just because they’re not exactly defined?

I used to think that I could prepare them for just about anything that they will meet out there. For anything that will be thrown at them by the ignorant few.

Our world is so caught up by the color of our skins and not by what is inside a person’s mind. When will it not matter? When will there not be a racial divide? Can you not see that this issue is not just black and white or white and black? It is everyone’s issue no matter who you are or where you’re from. Do we ourselves not create more tension and more racial divide because we are forgetting how much of a Diaspora our world is? What about those who are neither black nor white? Do they feel invisible because they are not talked about too?

Someone is always “screaming” racism or being the “victim”….or playing the race card. Does anyone ever stop and wonder why? Why, like a sore that cannot heal, racism is so rampant amongst us? Why the powers that be, from both ends of this color Diaspora, do not change their own ways? They seem to reinforce how things used to be by the constant in-fighting, pointing fingers at each other and playing the blame game.

Is it not time to let go? Is it not time to say let us not forget but let us move forward and not repeat the cycles of our past. After all, what the leaders and people of our world didn’t know then, we surely do know now.

What is gained from living in the past? What is gained from us cussing at each other? Let us all not fall into that cycle of ignorance.

If our world continues to perpetuate this attitude of dismal discontent, then surely there will be no hope for our children. I know it’s not a perfect world. I know that there will somehow still be one person out there who will forever live in the past and will strive hard to keep us there.

But if one person can do make a difference then our children will stand a fighting chance! I have hope because I know there are people out there who think the way I do. There are a lot of these people; friends, acquaintances, and even strangers, around me.

They are people who are progressive and hope for the good of our country and its people. Of course all of our problems won’t be fixed overnight, and we will still fight amongst ourselves and disagree with whoever is in the Presidency; but we can surely have a better world because of those people who try to live their own lives by example and make a difference in their own world.

This difference is something for me to hang on to with hope for the future of all our children and their children.

Comments
on Sep 13, 2005
I wish I could tell you things will be better about the race issue. I just do not know.

The best I can say is prepare your lovely children for the worse and pray for the best.

My best wishes go out to you and yours.

Elie

MM
on Sep 13, 2005
Foreverserenity:
A beautiful article and personally I'm glad you wrote it.
Many of us share your fears, thoughts, and concern for our children of the
world....

foreverserenity, as long as there are people, there will always be hatred, predjudice,
fear, and war.
there also will always be those that love, accept, help, and long for peace.

One of my favourite lecturers and writers is Leo Buscalia, if you get to the library I highly reccommend
any of his books! His lectures in the 80's were so neat, full of life stories and human experiences. Very
encouraging stuff.

Take heart little lady, there's more of us "lovers" than haters out there, and our children "learn" love
and how to cope by living with parents that give love and acceptance.
With love, Kathy
P.S. Loved MM's comments too!!!
on Sep 13, 2005
I wish I could tell you things will be better about the race issue. I just do not know.The best I can say is prepare your lovely children for the worse and pray for the best.My best wishes go out to you and yours.


Thank you Elie for a very thoughtful comment.


A beautiful article and personally I'm glad you wrote it.Many of us share your fears, thoughts, and concern for our children of theworld....


Thank you Trudy. My hope is also for all the children in our world to have it better than we do and did and not to make the same mistakes.

foreverserenity, as long as there are people, there will always be hatred, predjudice,fear, and war.there also will always be those that love, accept, help, and long for peace.


This is so true Trudy! Fear is a breeding ground for ignorance. Only love and acceptance will give us peace.


One of my favourite lecturers and writers is Leo Buscalia, if you get to the library I highly reccommendany of his books! His lectures in the 80's were so neat, full of life stories and human experiences. Veryencouraging stuff.Take heart little lady, there's more of us "lovers" than haters out there, and our children "learn" loveand how to cope by living with parents that give love and acceptance.With love, KathyP.S. Loved MM's comments too!!!


I will definately look for his books, thanks for the recommendation! I enjoy reading life experiences stories too.

It is heartening that there is a lot more of us lovers around!

MM's a sweetheart!
on Sep 13, 2005
I don't have much to say about the whole world, but I can say this: Act in precisely the way you want your kids to be - that is the single most important predictor of their behavior, in my nonscientific opinion. Don't give up hope - that's exactly what the non-Progressives want you to do.
on Sep 13, 2005
Act in precisely the way you want your kids to be - that is the single most important predictor of their behavior, in my nonscientific opinion.


Insightful, insightful, insightful...and yet another in a laundry list of reasons of why our personal crusade has been so crucial...I will NOT have my children brought up to believe that skin color, gender, religion, economic standing, or any other superficial factor, equates to worth!
on Sep 13, 2005
I don't have much to say about the whole world, but I can say this: Act in precisely the way you want your kids to be - that is the single most important predictor of their behavior, in my nonscientific opinion

Absolutely. So often we underestimate the affect we have on our children. We speak and think they're not listening. We lecture and believe it goes in one ear and out the other. They hear more than we realize, but more importantly, they are watching everything we do... and they will follow in our footsteps.

Walk a little plainer, Daddy,
Said a little boy so frail,
For I'm following in your footsteps,
And I don't want to fail.
Sometimes your steps are very plain,
Sometimes they're hard to see,
So walk a little plainer, Daddy,
For you are leading me.
I know that you once walked this way
Many, many years ago,
And what you did along the way
I'd really like to know.
For sometimes when I'm tempted,
I don't know what to do,
So walk a little plainer, Daddy;
You know I'm following you.
Someday when I'm grown up,
You are like I want to be;
Then I will have a little boy
Who'll want to follow me.
And I would want to lead him right
And help him to be true,
So walk a little plainer, Daddy,
I'm going to follow you.
(Author Unknown)
on Sep 13, 2005

Act in precisely the way you want your kids to be - that is the single most important predictor of their behavior, in my nonscientific opinion.

I have to agree 100% with Gideon on the insightful part and with the statement in general.

on Sep 13, 2005
you are a grand LADY, forever... teach your children well. {i know you are btw}
on Sep 13, 2005
don't have much to say about the whole world, but I can say this: Act in precisely the way you want your kids to be - that is the single most important predictor of their behavior, in my nonscientific opinion. Don't give up hope - that's exactly what the non-Progressives want you to do.


Hello Mr. Moskowitz! As usual you're pretty insightful...I agree with the others who commented. I do exactly that and you're right....they do copy me quite a lot....they have a concience..even the youngest one and I'm very happy about that! I definately won't give up hope, never! As long as we have children in our world, there will be hope for us yet.

Insightful, insightful, insightful...and yet another in a laundry list of reasons of why our personal crusade has been so crucial...I will NOT have my children brought up to believe that skin color, gender, religion, economic standing, or any other superficial factor, equates to worth!


A pretty insightful statement on your part too Gid. With people like you around teaching your children what you do....priceless!


often we underestimate the affect we have on our children. We speak and think they're not listening. We lecture and believe it goes in one ear and out the other. They hear more than we realize, but more importantly, they are watching everything we do... and they will follow in our footsteps.


I agree HC. They are always listening and watching. I used to do the same to my parents! I'm proud to say that I've become my mom!

Walk a little plainer, Daddy,Said a little boy so frail,For I'm following in your footsteps,And I don't want to fail.Sometimes your steps are very plain,Sometimes they're hard to see,So walk a little plainer, Daddy, For you are leading me.


I've read this poem before and the other one entitled Barefoot in the Sand. It's very beautiful and aptly fits this conversation, thank you!


have to agree 100% with Gideon on the insightful part and with the statement in general.


you are a grand LADY, forever... teach your children well. {i know you are btw}


Thank you both Doc and Elie!
on Sep 13, 2005
Forever, we can only stop it by educating the children.  Most (not all) adults will not change.  But teach the children, and they will teach theirs and so on and so on, and so on.  We will erradicate it the way we did small pox.  But it will not be over night.
on Sep 13, 2005
I don't have any really good response to your article...unfortunately, ignorant people exist all over the world, and as long as they are still around, their close minded thoughts and actions will always cause some sort of harm to someone...I do agree with dr. guy, though. Teaching today's children to accept differences might be one of the keys to improving this issue.
Excellent article.
on Sep 14, 2005
we can only stop it by educating the children. Most (not all) adults will not change. But teach the children, and they will teach theirs and so on and so on, and so on.


...I do agree with dr. guy, though. Teaching today's children to accept differences might be one of the keys to improving this issue.


Oh absolutely. The children in this world are our hopes for the future. That's why we have to protect them and cherish them. We have to be leaders of example for them.


Excellent article.


Thanks! I know it's a bit "soppy" but I just had to get it out!